In one line: This is one of those texts that transcends time; it is a must read for anyone looking to interrupt the auto-pilot conditioning instilled in us from the second we’re born.
Rating: 10/10
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS:
- Be impeccable w your word – say only what you mean; dont gossip; dont speak against yourself; use your word for truth and love
- Dont take anything personally – nothing others do is bc of you, rather a projection of their own reality; when youre immune to the opinions and actions of others, you wont be the victim of needless suffering
- Dont make assumptions – ask questions and express what you want; communicate to avoid misunderstanding, sadness and drama
- Always do your best – it will change from moment to moment; diff when you are healthy or sick; do your best always and you will avoid self judgment, abuse, and regret
CHAPTER 1:
Toltec = scientists and artists who formed a society in S Mexico to explore and conserve spiritual knowledge and ancient practices (in Teotihuacan, ancient city of pyramids outside Mexico City known as the place where “Man Becomes God”)
Attention is the ability we have to discriminate our focus only on that which we want to perceive. (P3)
We never got to choose what to believe or not to. We didnt choose our beliefs, but we agreed with the information that was passed to us from the dream of the planet vis other humans. (P5)
“The Domestication of Humans” – very compelling to reread on the programming instilled from the time were kids; eventually we become someone we are not, a copy of mom, dad, religion, and society’s inherited beliefs; this belief system is like a Book Of Law that rules our mind and whatevers in it is our truth. (P6-8)
There is something in our minds that judges everybody and everything (P9)
Anything you challenge from your book of law, this set of beliefs that you never even chose to believe, is going to make you feel unsafe and fearful.
Humans are the only species that pay 1000x for the same mistake; do this through memory and judging ourselves and others judging us making us pay for it over and over again (P12)
Human society is so difficult to live in because it is rules by fear. (P13)
Your whole mind is a fog which the Toltecs call mitote; in India they call this maya (meaning illusion) (P16)
The biggest fear humans have is taking the risk to be alive and express what we really are; weve learned to live trying to satisfy other peoples demands; to live by others points of view die to fear of not being accepted and not-being good enough for someone else; so we pursue perfection, but its not real, its an illusion and then when were not perfect, we reject ourselves and the level of self rejection depends on how effective the adults were in breaking our integrity; then we dont accept ourselves because were not what theyve taught us were supposed to be and so then we feel false, frustrated, dishonest and try to hide ourselves, pretending to be what we are not wearing our social masks, carrying shame and guilt, and then we judge others based on our image of perfection and naturally they fall short of expectations. (P17)
The Judge, the Victim, the Book of Law of beliefs we inherit are what make us not accept ourselves; in your whole life noone ever abused you more than yourself; our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves; its why we dont accept ourselves the way we are, and why we dont accept others the way they are (P21)
To live a life of joy and fulfillment you bave to find the courage to break your fear-based agreements and claim your personal power. Agreements from fear drain our energy while agreements from love feed our energy. It is our agreements that rule our life and if we dont like the dream of our life, we need to change the agreements. Each time you break a fear based agreement, all that power returns to you.
BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD:
All the magic you possess is based on your word. Your word is pure magic, and misuse of your word is black magic. (P27)
The human mind is a fertile ground where seeds are continually being planted. The seeds are opinions, ideas, and concepts. The problem is that too often its fertile for the seeds of fear. (p28)
Impeccable means without sin. Being impeccable is not going against yourself. When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself. Self-rejection is the biggest sin you can commit. (P31)
Being impeccable is also the best use of your energy—to use your energy for truth and love for yourself. If you make the intention to become impeccable it will cleanse all of the emotional poison from you. (P33)
We are taught when we are young to repress our emotions in order to be accepted and loved. (P35)
Whenever we hear an opinion and believe it, we make an agreement, and it becomes prt of our belief system. (P35)
Gossip is black magic at its very worse because it is pure poison. At a young age we hear adults talking about their opinions of others, even opinions of people they dont know, transferring around emotional poison w their opinions and we learned this to be the normal way to communicate. Gossip has become the main form of communication in society because it makes us feel better to see others feel as badly as we do (misery loves company). (P37)
Gossip = computer virus; imsgine that every time someone gossips to you, they insert a computer virus in your mind causing you to think a little less clearly each time. When we see the world through this virus, its easy to justify cruel behavior. (p40)
Mitote – the chaos of a thousand diff voices all trying to talk at once in the mind (Toltec)
Being impeccable with your word first starts with how you deal with yourself and later how you deal with others, especially those you love the most. You can measure it by your self love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. (p42, 44)
How many times have you hooked others attention and spread posion about people you cared about just to make your opinion right? (P43)
DONT TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY:
Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the world we live in. When we take things personal, we assume they know what is in our world and try to impose our world on theirs. (P48)
Even when something feels very personal, a direct insult, it has nothing to do with you. What they say and do, and opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication. (P49)
By taking things personal your eating others emotional garbage that then becomes your garbage. It also leads us to make something big out of something little because of a need to be right all the time. (P49)
Whatever others think ir feel, is their problem not your problem. It the way they see the world. Its not personal because they are dealing with themselves and not you. They establish opinions based on their belief systems so what they think is about them not you. (P51)
Only by making an inventory of our agreements will we uncover all of the conflicts in the mind and eventually make order out of the chaos of the mitote. (P56)
Taking things personally sets you up to suffer for no reason. Humans are addicted to suffering at different levels and go different degrees, and ee support each other in maintaining these addictions, agreeing to help each other suffer. (P57)
If others say one thing but do another you sre lying to yourself if you dont listen to their actions. (P58)
If you hold the agreement of nit taking things personal, you can travel the world with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You can say I love you without fear of being ridiculed or rejected. You can ask for what you need. You can say yes, or no—whatever you choose—without guilt or self judgment. You can always choose to follow your heart. (P60)
DONT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS:
The problem with making assumptions is we believe theyre true and swear theyre real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking—take it personally—then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison w our word. (P63)
The whole war of control between humans is about making assumptions and taking things personally, our whole dream of hell is based on it. (P64)
Usually we start gossiping about out assumptions, this is the way we communicate to each other in the dream of hell and transfer poison to each other, through gossip. (P64)
Making assumptions in relationships is really asking for problems. Often we make the assumption that our partners know what we think and we dont have to say what we want, assuming they are going to do what we want becuase they know us so well. If they dont, we feel hurt and say you should have known. (P66)
We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; that if people love us they should know what we want or how we feel. When we believe something, we assume we are right about it to the point that we will destroy relationships in order to defend our position and prove were right. (P68)
We dont need to justify love – its either there or its not. Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying take change them.
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST:
Things are always changing so remember your best will be different moment to moment. (P76)
If you try too hard to do more than your best youll spend more energy than necessary and it wont be enough; when you overdo, you deplete your body and go against yourself and it will take longer to hit the goal (p76/77)
Meditation story about meditating 4 hours then 8 w the message about enjoying life being happy and loving (p77/78)
Doing your best is taking action bc you love it not bc you want a reward (p79)
You know youre doing your best when it doesnt feel like work bc you enjoy whatever youre doing and it will not result in anything negative. You do your best bc you want to do it, not bc you have to, or bc youre trying to pls the Judge or other people (P81)
The best way to say I love you God is to live your life doing your best; the best way to say thank you god is by letting go of the past and living in there present moment; whatever life takes from you, let it go. (p83)
The four agreements are simple and logical but requires very strong will power to keep bc every path we take is full of obstacles. Everyone tried to sabotage our commitment to these new agreements, and everything around is a setup to break them (p88/89)
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